I help women who are tired of repeating the same alcohol cycle understand why they keep going back, rebuild trust with themselves, and create a life they don’t constantly need to escape from.
Not by pretending life is perfect.
Not by becoming some picture-perfect sober influencer.
By learning how to actually live.
The Chaos Queen Survival Kit™
Everything you need to start your sobriety journey today and begin creating real change in the next 3 weeks.
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SHANA WAS A GOD SEND. SHE HELPED ME AT MY WORST AND HAS BEEN THE INSPIRATION I NEEDED TO START MY SOBER JOURNEY. I WAS ABLE TO WORK ON TRAUMA AND THINGS THAT I THOUGHT I HAD LET GO LONG AGO. SHE GAVE ME SO MUCH HELP AS FAR AS DEALING WITH CRAVINGS AND HAVING PEOPLE I COULD COUNT ON TO CALL IF I WAS IN TROUBLE.
SHE'S VERY COMPASSIONATE AND UNDERSTANDING. I HIGHLY SUGGEST SHANA TO ANYONE WHO IS LOOKIN FOR A SOBER COACH. I AM SOBER TODAY DUE TO HER HELP.
BRIANNA NAZARIJCHUK
SHANA IS TRULY A BLESSING. SHE HELPED ME TREMENDOUSLY WHEN I WAS SOBERING UP. I WAS FACING A LOT OF TRIAL AND TRIBULATIONS AROUND CUSTODY OF MY CHILD AND PREPARING FOR A DEATH WITH MY MOTHER. I REMEMBER EVERY MORNING BEFORE WE STARTED OUR DAY SHE WOULD LISTEN TO ME VENT AND OFFER HELPFUL ADVICE THROUGH IT. I ALWAYS FELT HEARD TALKING TO HER AND NEVER JUDGED. I THANK GOD FOR HER DURING THIS TIME BECAUSE I PROBABLY WOULDN'T HAVE MADE IT.
AALIYAH
SHANA - CONTROLLED CHAOS
HELPED WITH
ALL OF MY ISSUES DEALING WITH DUEL DIAGNOSIS. I HAVE NOT DRANK FOR 6 MONTHS. I HAVE HIGHS AND LOWS WITH MY MOODS AND SHANA STOOD WITH ME AND WALKED ME THROUGH THEM ALL.
EVELYNN
CHECK MY GIRL OUT! THIS WOMAN SAVED ME IN MY DARKEST TIME AS A HOMELESS TEEN MOM AND SHE PUSHED ME UNTIL I BECAME WHAT SHE KNEW I HAD IN ME! NOT EVEN KNOWING ALL SHE WAS BATTLING..
CHECK HER STORY OUT AND ALL SHE'S OVERCOME AND THE DIFFERENCE SHE IS MAKING IN WOMEN'S LIVES TODAY! SHANA EPPS KEEP GOING GIRL!!!!!!! YOU ARE A TRUE INSPIRATION..
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The Sobriety Start Call
A personalized call where we look at where you are, what’s been keeping you stuck, and what your next step should be.
For the woman who is ready to stop repeating the same chapter.
This is not about becoming a perfect sober person.
This is about rebuilding.
Your habits.
Your identity.
Your relationships.
Your confidence.
Your future.
The woman your kids get to know.
The woman you get to become.
Real conversations for the woman who already knows something has to change.
Not because someone told her.
Because deep down… she knows.
The mornings.
The promises.
The guilt.
The “I’m done this time.”
The trying to control something that keeps proving it has control over her.
This is where we talk about the stuff nobody talks about.
The cycle.
The why.
The rebuilding.
The actual work of creating a life you don’t keep needing to escape from.
Learn Something New
The Chaos Queen Cycle™: Why You Keep Ending Up Back Here
You know the cycle.
You have a night where you drink more than you wanted to.
You wake up disappointed.
Maybe embarrassed.
Maybe scared.
You tell yourself:
“I’m done.”
And you mean it.
You make a plan.
You get your shit together.
You drink your water.
You clean your house.
You show up for your family.
You feel like yourself again.
And then eventually…
life happens.
A stressful day.
A fight.
A celebration.
Feeling overwhelmed.
Feeling lonely.
Feeling like you are carrying everything and nobody sees it.
And suddenly you’re back in the same place you promised yourself you would never be again.
That does something to a person.
Because eventually the question stops being:
“Why do I drink?”
And becomes:
“Why can’t I stop doing this when I KNOW I want to?”
That’s the Chaos Queen Cycle.
And learning your cycle is where change starts.
Rock Bottom Isn’t One Big Moment
We’ve been sold this idea that rock bottom is some dramatic moment where your whole life falls apart.
But for a lot of women?
It’s not.
Sometimes rock bottom looks like:
“I’m going to take a week off.”
And you do.
You feel better.
You think maybe this time is different.
Then somehow the next time comes…
and it’s worse.
The shame is heavier.
The disappointment is louder.
Because now you’re not just fighting alcohol.
You’re fighting the feeling that you can’t trust yourself.
Maybe you’ve had dozens of little rock bottoms.
The morning after.
The broken promise.
The conversation you wish you could take back.
The moment you realize your kids are noticing.
The moment you realize you’re tired of starting over.
Rock bottom isn’t always where everything ends.
Sometimes it’s the moment you finally decide you’re done living in the cycle.
Why “Just Stop Drinking” Doesn’t Work
Girl.
You know alcohol is a problem.
You don’t need another person telling you that.
You don’t need another lecture.
You don’t need another scary statistic.
You already know what it’s costing you.
Your peace.
Your confidence.
Your relationships.
Your mornings.
Your trust in yourself.
The problem was never that you didn’t know alcohol was bad.
The problem is nobody taught you what comes next.
What do you do when you’re overwhelmed?
What do you do when you’re angry?
What do you do when you’re celebrating?
What do you do when life gets really hard and the one thing you’ve always reached for isn’t there?
Stopping drinking is one piece.
Learning how to live differently is the part nobody prepared you for.
It Was Never Just About The Alcohol
Alcohol was the thing everyone could see.
But underneath?
The stress.
The pressure.
The exhaustion.
The trauma.
The emotions you didn’t know what to do with.
The version of you who has spent years surviving.
Alcohol became the place you went when you needed a break from being everything for everyone.
So no, this isn’t about becoming some perfect sober woman who wakes up at 5 a.m. drinking green juice and journaling.
Absolutely not. 😂
This is about becoming the woman who trusts herself again.
The woman who can handle a hard day without needing to disappear.
The woman who gets her life back.
The woman who knows something needs to change.
The woman who has tried to stop before.
The woman who is tired of making promises and breaking them.
This isn’t about becoming a perfect sober person.
This is about rebuilding your identity, your confidence, your relationships, and your future.
This is about becoming the woman you know you’re capable of being.
About Me
Hi, I’m Shana Jane, founder of Controlled Chaos™.
I’m not here because I read a book about sobriety.
I’m here because I’ve lived in the trenches.
I’ve worked in recovery.
I’ve sat with people in some of their hardest moments.
And I’ve also had to look at my own life and ask hard questions.
I know what it feels like to want change so badly but still feel stuck.
I know what it feels like to keep trying to “fix” yourself instead of learning how to rebuild yourself.
And I know this:
People don’t need more shame.
They need a plan.
They need support.
They need someone who understands the chaos.
For years, I watched people struggle with the same cycle.
They wanted to change.
They knew what they were doing wasn’t working.
They loved their families.
They cared about their futures.
But something kept pulling them back.
And I realized something was missing.
Everyone focused on stopping the behavior.
Nobody focused on rebuilding the person.
Because sobriety isn’t just about removing alcohol.
It’s about learning how to handle life without needing an escape.
It’s about identity.
It’s about healing.
It’s about becoming someone you’re proud to be.
That became my mission.
To help women stop fighting themselves and start building a life they actually want to stay present for.
I work with women to:
• Understand why they keep returning to alcohol
• Break the Chaos Queen Cycle
• Create tools for real-life triggers
• Rebuild confidence and self-trust
• Build a sober life that actually feels worth living
• Have support, accountability, education, and community
A year-long identity rebuild.
A complete system designed to help you go from constantly starting over…
to building a life you don’t want to escape from.
This is where we rebuild:
Your habits.
Your identity.
Your confidence.
Your relationships.
Your future.
